The first lessons of friendship. How to teach children to get acquainted?

The first lessons of friendship. How to teach children to get acquainted?
Perhaps, who seldom ask ourselves why we need friends kid. We do not even doubt that the friendship - and, the piece is very important. That's right. But not all parents are aware that in establishing this, the presentation of our children about friendship, we must accept that either the thing is actively involved.
Victoria Beloborodova

Kids need to learn pal. And the notion of friendship is very extensive. This ability to cope with the manifestations of their own selfishness, and respect for the opinion of other people, and the desire to come to the rescue, compassionate and empathize, to be kind and generous, attentive and caring. Interestingly, the mental, psychological, social, emotional and even physical development of children is closely related to how develop its relations with friends. This friendship - is a world full of mysteries and secrets vydumok and leprosy, and pleasures, alas, is disappointing, too. Indeed, without quarrels and petty offenses are not treated any one human relations.

And well, when the baby has a one-established circle of friends, buddies. But it happens that the crumb gets into a new place, new environment, for example, came to the grandmother in the village or is sent to parents at sea. And here again, all you need to start first: get acquainted with unfamiliar kids, make them even if fleeting, but it is very important for the baby friendly relations. Indeed, one oh how boring!

Let's help our kids build their relations with other kids and from a very early age, presented to them the lessons of friendship.

Sandbox, a school friend
Yes, it is the most common playgrounds yards acquire our babies and малышки first experience of interpersonal communication. Try-ka here pokomanduy like home! And in the yard in the first place come the harsh laws of life. Well, not so much heavier when out. But sovkom on the head can be shlopotat ... And even if you're not very fond of walking in children's sandboxes and listen to conversations of other mamochek "for life" from time to time it just has to be done for the baby. It is possible that you will find like-minded moms, which will be very interesting to discuss the prospects for the development of children's friendship. But even if not, throw their energy into the game together with your neighbors and kids. Science games with their peers - an important and useful skills that you will thus be able to give your child.

Oversee the crumbs playing - a pleasure. And now, at a very early age, you may notice some patterns of behavior of a child. Here is the karapuz - the soul of the company, he was like a magnet attracting the kids, and they are happy to support them started the game. And yonder demure concentrated lepit kulichiki aside, poglyadyvaya sullenly at the company. And any attempt to engage him in a game together, angry face and cuddle pail and shovel. But this girl with not a child has a serious face is watching other children play and intervenes only when, in her opinion, someone acted unfairly towards the other. Этакий peacekeeper increases. Oversee the kids are very interesting. And if you carefully check your child for playing with other детишками, you make a lot of useful discoveries.

First of all, you need to think a little bit especially the development of children's relationships. For example, babies up to two or three years are generally not able to independently interact with each other. They were very interested in other children, they like to watch them, review them, comment on them, touch their hands. They were happy to play alongside other kids. Close, but not together. At this age, only adults may try to involve the kids in some kind of overall game. And with some effort it is possible to organize the joint construction of the sand house, playing ball, or "cat-and-mouse" and other "begalki and lovishki.

But povzroslevshie kids can play together. But they do not always get it. Here are two girl "feed" a doll and rock in her pram. Already after 5 minutes, both piercing scream, and pull the poor "baby" in different directions. Do I need to intervene to parents? In this situation - yes. But it is not shouting: "A Well, stop right now! Iraq, give the doll Naste! You that you can not play well?" Well, in that spirit. You do not need to "clarify the relationship and understand who started the first, who is right and who is to blame. Better come to the girls who sit ryadyshkom and pozhurite cockerel: "Here's what you have a good daughter. As its name? Masha? Look, she cries. She was hurt when she pulled over volosiki. Let's first Irochka will be its mother, and you , Nastya, be a doctor. And Iraq will lead to your daughter treated. And then my mother would Nastenka ... " Then you can play with little girls, sending the game back on track. Similarly, you can resolve almost any child conflict, allowing children to understand that easy access to all there is always the case. But law enforcement methods of children's conflict can not be tolerated. Even if some of the kids pushed and struck the other. Creek, spanking and other "educational" measure just approved by the parents of children of the opinion that the force - the main weapon to determine the relationship. You do not need to find out why Sasha Dashu pushed or fell asleep her eyes with sand. Maybe he did it accidentally, but we nakinemsya at him with accusations. Better to sit next to Sasha, hug him and tell a relaxed and friendly that the sand in the eyes - it is painful and unpleasant. "Dashu offended you, she was crying. You do not need to hurt other children. Unless you will be pleased if the Dasha will be exactly the same with you? She pushed you first? Maybe she did it accidentally? You think that specifically, then it was necessary to simply ask her to push, rather than rattling off the sand. Look, what is good girl! She had such beautiful volosiki, bow ... Let's apologized to her, say: Dasha, no offense, Sasha will try to do so no longer. Roll Ms. Dasa play your trucks? " On the emotional and ugly kids need to carry out from time to time, such talk, teach them to understand the feelings of other children to show how to resolve conflicts without using force. Most kids offend one of cronies, because, by virtue of age, simply do not understand what is causing another pain. And our task is to explain all this to them.

But, do not interfere in the resolution of childhood conflicts too often. Let the child and himself to try to find the correct exit. In most cases, babies do well with this. And thus gained experience in the truth is priceless. Later you can discuss with your child the cause of the conflict, to think that your child is enrolle, to praise the little diplomat for the right decision.

Learning to become acquainted
The ability to familiarize themselves - this is perhaps one of the first steps toward childhood friendship. Can you come to a pipsqueak playground to an unfamiliar boy or girl and get acquainted? There are kids who do it easily and freely without any help from the parents: "Girl, you a name? Anya? And my Masha. What is that you, doll? And I see what is zainka! Let's play, as if They went to sea ... " All knowledge was, there was a game. And there are kids who, because of natural shyness shy kids come to play and to offer friendship. Most often, this is due to the peculiarities of the psyche of a child. All people are of extrovert and introvert. It is clear that in its pure form, these two psihotipa are rare, but many features are traced in every one of us had, from early childhood. Kid-extrovert draws information about the world from other people, communication is worth it in the first place. Typically, he does not like being alone, and in most cases prefer a collective game individually. The child-introvert Conversely loves spending time in the proud solitude, to play alone. And information about the receive from their own feelings and experiences. We open extrovert usually there is no problem with communication, he is looking for opportunities to tie the new acquaintance. But it is not easy to do yourself. But if your baby can be features of an introvert, it makes sense to make some effort to learn and help pipsqueak acquainted, socialize and make friends. In a word, help him become more sociable.

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